有时候，深深觉得自己是个矛盾的父亲。即想孩子们能发奋读书名列前茅，又不想太剥夺他们身为孩童所爱做的事。看着女儿每天一堆学校功课，加上拜一直拜五的课外补习，可算相当忙碌，到了周末也就不强制禁止她上网或玩游戏。不过女儿的学业成绩却停留在中等阶段，父母亲期望她能更加进步。
儿子虽然只有五岁，却精通各种电脑与手提游戏机，虽然每天都有准时做完功课，学业成绩却也只算是中等。
美国华裔虎妈蔡美儿的新闻让我觉得身为孩子的父亲，也许因为自己不够严厉，以致孩子们的学业中庸。
寻找万全的育儿方针，是做父母的最大考验。。。
Sometimes, I feel that as a parent, I have not been stringent and demanding enough to the children in terms of their academic result.Seeing the amount of schoolwork they need to do daily and the additional tuition classes after school, I do not impose additional restrictions (such as watching television & playing games) and do not stress them to be exceptional academically. Incidentally, both the children only have mediocre result so far.
Contrary to the parenting style of the controversial American Chinese, Amy Chua, I am more inclined to allowing the kids to have a more balance childhood life, but I am doubtful whether this is contributing to their academic result being mediocre.
Too much game may not be a good game plan. I will need to figure out properly….
不一定要成绩好.
ReplyDeleteEQ 比 IQ 重要..
Life is full of conflicts.
ReplyDeleteHow to balance them is the art.
望子成龙，望女成风，永远是父母对子女的期望。疼惜子女，也永远是为人父母的心态。然而，时代不同了，如今成功不一定是靠优良的学校成绩，培养孩子的价值观和能力，应该更重要。
ReplyDeleteIs your daughter a lefty? Nice calligraphy!
ReplyDelete我有时看到我侄女做她的功课
ReplyDelete我都有点怕
现在的小学生功课可不少
追梦者，
ReplyDelete我也希望孩子们能全面健全的学习发展。。
rainfield61，
Yes, indeed, balancing is the art of life…
平阳居校长，
以前的小学生，那有补习的，现在补习则几乎是必然的，以前的小孩只有简单的玩具，现在的高科技玩意不胜枚举，时代真的不同了，呵呵。。
Yoke-Yin，
Yes, my daughter is a left-hander, however, she likes painting more that calligraphy...
天王之子,
是啊，比我读书时代的功课繁重多了。。
听来的，
ReplyDelete大概是这样：
养儿到100，
常忧99。。。
jin1shu3,
ReplyDelete哈哈，想来大概是这样把。。
A balance between work and play is important. Grown-ups need that too.
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